Well it's been a few weeks since my last post and the dates have still been happening.... However I have met a few from different places and am now not really on RSVP. That being said I was still in contact with Kix and Michael for a while. In fact Michael is still messaging me but I think Kix got the hit after a few weeks that I just wasn't that into him. Michael and I have been messaging every few days since our date but haven't seemed to be able to get our act together.
As nothing was really happening with any of the guys of RSVP I asked a girlfriend if she wanted to come speed dating with me (I had been before but she hadn't). She was keen to come so we booked for last Thursday night. The event was made up of 3 groups of different ages. The group I was in with my friend Vic was women 29 to 34 (we lied about our age) and men 35 to 40 and we were the red group. In each group there were 12 men and 12 women. The women all stayed in the one seat for the night while the men moved around and spoke to each women in their group. I did find the quality of men as good as I had the previous time and only ticked yes for 2 out of my 12 dates. The following morning I checked my email for my matched and saw that I had one. This mean that he had also ticket yes for me.
His name was Conrad and I couldn't for the life of me remember him as I had ended up having a bit to drink. I knew he was bald or had a shaved head and was tanned and I thought that if I had said yes he must have been good looking and that we had at least gotten a long. The same day I got the email about the match I also got an email from Conrad, so I replied. And we emailed back and forth all weekend.
That Saturday night I had to go to work at a club in the city. As it turns out there was a cute guy Rack that a Latino ( it was a Latino night at the club) who stood and talked to me for a while. He ended up writing his number on a piece of paper and said for me to call him before he left. The next day I thought I may as well message Rack to say hi. So I did and and asked me out for a coffee. I had plans that day so we said we would meet up the following Sunday.
The next few days (Monday and Tuesday) were spent emailing Conrad back and forth. He seemed like a really nice guy and in one of the emails asked me if I liked the ballet. I said 'yes, of course' and he mentioned that he had been given tickets if I wanted to go with him on Thursday night. I can't tell you how over the moon I was. I mean my whole last relationship all I ever wanted was for my boyfriend to want to take me to things like the ballet and here I was with this guy wanting to take me on my first date. Yeah....
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Friday, August 6, 2010
They say things happen is threes...
So it's been three week since I have been back on RSVP and in the last 7 days I have been on three dates.
Date one;
Was with a guy called Reid who in his profile looked quite cute. Dark complexion (which I like) and build (also like, who wouldn't). We started off emailing on RSVP and then one night after work he was online at the same time as me so he invited me to chat. While we were chatting we exchanged numbers and from there started texting each other. This proved to be fun and very flirty. Soon Reid asked me out on a date but didn't want to talk before hand so we continued with the flirtations texts until we met last Sunday.
Reid arrived a few minutes late so I was waiting out the front of a bar/club on a popular inner city street near to where he lived. We greeted each other with a kiss on the cheek and walked inside. From the first impression he was not as attractive as his photos, as his ears stuck out a lot. Kind of reminded me of Pinky from the cartoon Pinky and the Brain.
Reid bought me a glass of red and we sat down and did the whole getting to know you talk. I started telling him how I just joined the gym and was sore from a boxing class the day before. To this Reid asked if he could touch me!! I politely said 'no' and continued with my story. Then Reid reached for his phone and told me that he 'had to show me something' or he asked 'would you like me to take my top off?' I again said 'no' so he pulled out a picture on his phone of him in his very small Y front jocks posing in front of a mirror. I at this point was lost for words, I mean I had only met this guy 5 minutes ago and he is showing me this??!! After that, as far as I was concerned the date was over. I really just wanted to leave and he did give me and opportunity to when he went to the toilet not long after but I'm not the kind of person that could do that to someone so I stayed.
He then asked me if I'd like to get something to eat. I had already eaten but again I felt bad if I left so I said 'yes' and we went to a really lovely new restaurant around the corner. It was packed so we had to wait a little while for a seat and I only ate a salad but it would be a place I would recommend. I guess one good thing has come out of this date. As soon as we had finished eating Reid went to the bar and paid. He asked if I wanted to go somewhere else for a drink but I though I had lost enough time I would never get back and so I said that I 'had to get home'. I think from this he understood that I was not keen as it had only been just over an hour since the date began.
Date two;
This date was with a guy that I had been emailing while I was in contact with Reid but he wasn't as cute so I had not been as keen. However as the date with Reid didn't go so well I though I would make plans with him. His name was Michael. We met up on Thursday night for dinner on a street in Melbourne that is like our own little Italy so of course it was an Italian restaurant. I am half Italian so I was happy with Michael's choice.
Michael and I hit it off from the word go. He was cute and well dressed and the conversation just flowed. I couldn't fault him, that was until it was time to pay. We walked up to the bar and I as I always do got my wallet out expecting Michael to tell me he would pay. As the meal was quite cheap. However he let me pay half. Let me tell you I am a modern women but I always think that the first date a guy should pay especially when they have asked you out and picked the restaurant. So I was a bit taken back by this and when Michael and I said goodbye I didn't give him a kiss on the cheek. As I knew I had another date the next night I thought I would wait and see how that one went before making and decisions about whether I wanted to see Michael again.
Date three;
While walking back to my car after my date with Michael I saw a missed call on my phone from Kix (my third date). I called him back as I was walking and we discussed where we would meet for our date the following night (Kix and I had been email on RSVP and had also had a phone conversation during the week). As it turns out Kix wanted to meet me at a bar/restaurant that Michael had told me about that night. I thought what are the chances of Michael being there the following night so I said yes to meeting there.
Well I got to the place I was meeting Kix a little early so I went in, got a drink and sat at a table. Kix didn't take long to arrive and at first I did not recognise him as he looked a lot better looking then his picture on RSVP. He was bald and that I knew from the picture but he looked a lot cuter. I think it was because of the fact that in the photos I'd seen there was so much light on his head that it made it look like a bowling ball but in real life it was smooth.
This date seemed to be going as well as mine had with Michael. The conversation was flowing and Kix seemed like an all round nice guy. Then we decided that we would walk down the street to get something to eat and as we were walking I realised how short Kix was. I was wearing heels but he was almost half a head smaller. I didn't know if I could be with someone bald and shorter then me, I thought I would just see how the rest of the date went.
We had dinner followed by drinks at another bar and the conversation started to head south. I then lost interest and really just wanted to go home. We both finished our glass of wine and luckily Kix asked me if I wanted to head off. I obviously said yes and we both went our respective ways.
As I was in the cab on the way home I looked at my phone and saw a text from Michael. What great timing I thought. It said 'hey was good to catch up last night, do it again soon'. I wrote back and said I felt the same and for him to let me know when he was free.
Kix wrote to me the text day too saying 'hey hope you got a taxi ok. Thanks for a nice night. Catch you round'. I though from this that he wasn't asking me to see him again so I just wrote back to be polite and said I'd enjoyed myself too.
Date one;
Was with a guy called Reid who in his profile looked quite cute. Dark complexion (which I like) and build (also like, who wouldn't). We started off emailing on RSVP and then one night after work he was online at the same time as me so he invited me to chat. While we were chatting we exchanged numbers and from there started texting each other. This proved to be fun and very flirty. Soon Reid asked me out on a date but didn't want to talk before hand so we continued with the flirtations texts until we met last Sunday.
Reid arrived a few minutes late so I was waiting out the front of a bar/club on a popular inner city street near to where he lived. We greeted each other with a kiss on the cheek and walked inside. From the first impression he was not as attractive as his photos, as his ears stuck out a lot. Kind of reminded me of Pinky from the cartoon Pinky and the Brain.
Reid bought me a glass of red and we sat down and did the whole getting to know you talk. I started telling him how I just joined the gym and was sore from a boxing class the day before. To this Reid asked if he could touch me!! I politely said 'no' and continued with my story. Then Reid reached for his phone and told me that he 'had to show me something' or he asked 'would you like me to take my top off?' I again said 'no' so he pulled out a picture on his phone of him in his very small Y front jocks posing in front of a mirror. I at this point was lost for words, I mean I had only met this guy 5 minutes ago and he is showing me this??!! After that, as far as I was concerned the date was over. I really just wanted to leave and he did give me and opportunity to when he went to the toilet not long after but I'm not the kind of person that could do that to someone so I stayed.
He then asked me if I'd like to get something to eat. I had already eaten but again I felt bad if I left so I said 'yes' and we went to a really lovely new restaurant around the corner. It was packed so we had to wait a little while for a seat and I only ate a salad but it would be a place I would recommend. I guess one good thing has come out of this date. As soon as we had finished eating Reid went to the bar and paid. He asked if I wanted to go somewhere else for a drink but I though I had lost enough time I would never get back and so I said that I 'had to get home'. I think from this he understood that I was not keen as it had only been just over an hour since the date began.
Date two;
This date was with a guy that I had been emailing while I was in contact with Reid but he wasn't as cute so I had not been as keen. However as the date with Reid didn't go so well I though I would make plans with him. His name was Michael. We met up on Thursday night for dinner on a street in Melbourne that is like our own little Italy so of course it was an Italian restaurant. I am half Italian so I was happy with Michael's choice.
Michael and I hit it off from the word go. He was cute and well dressed and the conversation just flowed. I couldn't fault him, that was until it was time to pay. We walked up to the bar and I as I always do got my wallet out expecting Michael to tell me he would pay. As the meal was quite cheap. However he let me pay half. Let me tell you I am a modern women but I always think that the first date a guy should pay especially when they have asked you out and picked the restaurant. So I was a bit taken back by this and when Michael and I said goodbye I didn't give him a kiss on the cheek. As I knew I had another date the next night I thought I would wait and see how that one went before making and decisions about whether I wanted to see Michael again.
Date three;
While walking back to my car after my date with Michael I saw a missed call on my phone from Kix (my third date). I called him back as I was walking and we discussed where we would meet for our date the following night (Kix and I had been email on RSVP and had also had a phone conversation during the week). As it turns out Kix wanted to meet me at a bar/restaurant that Michael had told me about that night. I thought what are the chances of Michael being there the following night so I said yes to meeting there.
Well I got to the place I was meeting Kix a little early so I went in, got a drink and sat at a table. Kix didn't take long to arrive and at first I did not recognise him as he looked a lot better looking then his picture on RSVP. He was bald and that I knew from the picture but he looked a lot cuter. I think it was because of the fact that in the photos I'd seen there was so much light on his head that it made it look like a bowling ball but in real life it was smooth.
This date seemed to be going as well as mine had with Michael. The conversation was flowing and Kix seemed like an all round nice guy. Then we decided that we would walk down the street to get something to eat and as we were walking I realised how short Kix was. I was wearing heels but he was almost half a head smaller. I didn't know if I could be with someone bald and shorter then me, I thought I would just see how the rest of the date went.
We had dinner followed by drinks at another bar and the conversation started to head south. I then lost interest and really just wanted to go home. We both finished our glass of wine and luckily Kix asked me if I wanted to head off. I obviously said yes and we both went our respective ways.
As I was in the cab on the way home I looked at my phone and saw a text from Michael. What great timing I thought. It said 'hey was good to catch up last night, do it again soon'. I wrote back and said I felt the same and for him to let me know when he was free.
Kix wrote to me the text day too saying 'hey hope you got a taxi ok. Thanks for a nice night. Catch you round'. I though from this that he wasn't asking me to see him again so I just wrote back to be polite and said I'd enjoyed myself too.
Thursday, August 5, 2010
To give you a picture....
So I'm a 27 year old girl living in Melbourne, Australia and have been single since late December 09. I was in a relationship for about 8 months and it was the first serious relationship I'd been in for over 4 years... I really like it and when I broke up with my ex wanted to get straight back into a relationship. So.... I joined RSVP (an online dating site) in mid February this year.
On RSVP you need to pay to make contact with the other members so I bought what they call 'stamps' so I was able to email potential mates. The first weekend I was on there I sent out 'kisses' (kisses are free ways to make contact to see if the other user is interested before spending money to email) to a lot of guys and got a few 'I'm interested' 'kisses' back. So I send out emails to those that said they were interested and ended up meeting up the following weekend with one guy.
This guy Jack and I went on a number of dates all over the the city and suburbs of where we both lived close by. It was a lot of fun. We both at the time were living with our parents (Jack with his mum and me with both of mine) so it was hard for us to spend 'quality' time together but as his mum had a boyfriend we managed to spend afternoons at his place while she was out with her partner.
Jack and my dating lasted three weeks until we were lying in his bed after spending some 'quality' time together and were talking about why I didn't get my monthly. I explained to him that it was because I was on medication. He of course asked for some more information about the medication and I just said I had Bi-polar as it was easier then explaining the truth (I may get into that story another time). To this Jack did not react well and started getting dressed. I did the same and he then told me her could not handel it as he had a alcoholic abusive ex-wife (all news to me) and didn't want to deal with anything like that again. So that was the end of Jack and I.
Then there were more 'kisses' and more emails and dates none of which went anywhere but it was all fun meeting new people and going out to different places. All the while I was still in contact with my ex secretly hoping he would get back with me. I think met about 10 different guys and some I saw for a few weeks but at the time I was a smoker so most of them were turned off by this. Some even saying that they couldn't date me because of this (not something new as my ex made me stop too and I only started again when we broke up).
In the end I gave up smoking. Not just in the hope of meeting some one but also because I just didn't want to be a smoker anymore, so I got hypnotised and it worked (well I sometime have a herbal smoke when I'm out with my girlfriends but that's about it and it's been 7 weeks now). As soon as I changes my details on RSVP to say 'don't smoke' I got so many more responses and instently felt more attractive to the oposite sex.
I'd been looking at the events page on the RSVP website and saw that there was a company that ran speed-dating. I told a girlfriend and she was keen to go along with me as she was also single but not wanting to go on a dating site. So I booked however my friend never got around to booking and I ended up going on my own. This was ok as, as soon as I got there another two girl saw me at the bar and asked me to hang out with them before the event.
We were lead up stairs, were we had an ice-breaker game before the speed-dating began. There was about 60 people there, half of each sex and we made up 3 groups. This meant that there were 10 guys and 10 girls in each group and you have a 4 minute date with each person in your group. After each date you ticked yes or no next to the persons name on a card. At the end of the night everyone handed in there card and would receive an email the next day with our matches. I had ticket yes for 5 of the guys I met and the next day got 3 matches (not bad odds). In email with matches I got the email address of the guys. One of the guys Sebastian emailed me that day and we emailed back and forth before exchanging numbers. The other two I emailed but never heard back from. Sebastian was keen to meet up and asked me out a few times but it was never a good time for me or I hadn't been left with the best impression of him from out meeting. I guess looking back you can't tell much from 4 minutes but none the less I never met up with him.
After being on RSVP for 4 months and without meeting The one I decided to deactivate my profile. The real reason for doing this was that I was hoping to get back with my ex. I thought that because I was no longer smoking and had gotten back into my fitness (something else he didn't like about me) that he would want to take me back. So the next few weeks I spent trying to show him that I was the 'right one' for him. We would catch up and call each other and he would say at the end of each meeting that we should do it again. So silly me saw this as him wanting to get back with me. Then one Sunday I was having brunch with my girlfriend and I told her how I felt about my ex and what I was trying to do. She said I needed to tell him and see what he wanted. I knew she was right but I also knew that if we had this conversation that I would have to stop talking to him as it couldn't keep going the way it was. When I got home that afternoon I called my ex and he said what I had thought he would. He didn't feel the same way... We both decided that it was better not to have contact for a while and I haven't heard from him since and that was 3 weeks ago.
So as soon I had that conversation with my ex I thought the best way to get over him was to do what I did when we first broke up and that was to get back onto RSVP and dating again.
Well that is what I did....
On RSVP you need to pay to make contact with the other members so I bought what they call 'stamps' so I was able to email potential mates. The first weekend I was on there I sent out 'kisses' (kisses are free ways to make contact to see if the other user is interested before spending money to email) to a lot of guys and got a few 'I'm interested' 'kisses' back. So I send out emails to those that said they were interested and ended up meeting up the following weekend with one guy.
This guy Jack and I went on a number of dates all over the the city and suburbs of where we both lived close by. It was a lot of fun. We both at the time were living with our parents (Jack with his mum and me with both of mine) so it was hard for us to spend 'quality' time together but as his mum had a boyfriend we managed to spend afternoons at his place while she was out with her partner.
Jack and my dating lasted three weeks until we were lying in his bed after spending some 'quality' time together and were talking about why I didn't get my monthly. I explained to him that it was because I was on medication. He of course asked for some more information about the medication and I just said I had Bi-polar as it was easier then explaining the truth (I may get into that story another time). To this Jack did not react well and started getting dressed. I did the same and he then told me her could not handel it as he had a alcoholic abusive ex-wife (all news to me) and didn't want to deal with anything like that again. So that was the end of Jack and I.
Then there were more 'kisses' and more emails and dates none of which went anywhere but it was all fun meeting new people and going out to different places. All the while I was still in contact with my ex secretly hoping he would get back with me. I think met about 10 different guys and some I saw for a few weeks but at the time I was a smoker so most of them were turned off by this. Some even saying that they couldn't date me because of this (not something new as my ex made me stop too and I only started again when we broke up).
In the end I gave up smoking. Not just in the hope of meeting some one but also because I just didn't want to be a smoker anymore, so I got hypnotised and it worked (well I sometime have a herbal smoke when I'm out with my girlfriends but that's about it and it's been 7 weeks now). As soon as I changes my details on RSVP to say 'don't smoke' I got so many more responses and instently felt more attractive to the oposite sex.
I'd been looking at the events page on the RSVP website and saw that there was a company that ran speed-dating. I told a girlfriend and she was keen to go along with me as she was also single but not wanting to go on a dating site. So I booked however my friend never got around to booking and I ended up going on my own. This was ok as, as soon as I got there another two girl saw me at the bar and asked me to hang out with them before the event.
We were lead up stairs, were we had an ice-breaker game before the speed-dating began. There was about 60 people there, half of each sex and we made up 3 groups. This meant that there were 10 guys and 10 girls in each group and you have a 4 minute date with each person in your group. After each date you ticked yes or no next to the persons name on a card. At the end of the night everyone handed in there card and would receive an email the next day with our matches. I had ticket yes for 5 of the guys I met and the next day got 3 matches (not bad odds). In email with matches I got the email address of the guys. One of the guys Sebastian emailed me that day and we emailed back and forth before exchanging numbers. The other two I emailed but never heard back from. Sebastian was keen to meet up and asked me out a few times but it was never a good time for me or I hadn't been left with the best impression of him from out meeting. I guess looking back you can't tell much from 4 minutes but none the less I never met up with him.
After being on RSVP for 4 months and without meeting The one I decided to deactivate my profile. The real reason for doing this was that I was hoping to get back with my ex. I thought that because I was no longer smoking and had gotten back into my fitness (something else he didn't like about me) that he would want to take me back. So the next few weeks I spent trying to show him that I was the 'right one' for him. We would catch up and call each other and he would say at the end of each meeting that we should do it again. So silly me saw this as him wanting to get back with me. Then one Sunday I was having brunch with my girlfriend and I told her how I felt about my ex and what I was trying to do. She said I needed to tell him and see what he wanted. I knew she was right but I also knew that if we had this conversation that I would have to stop talking to him as it couldn't keep going the way it was. When I got home that afternoon I called my ex and he said what I had thought he would. He didn't feel the same way... We both decided that it was better not to have contact for a while and I haven't heard from him since and that was 3 weeks ago.
So as soon I had that conversation with my ex I thought the best way to get over him was to do what I did when we first broke up and that was to get back onto RSVP and dating again.
Well that is what I did....
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